“Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure, but even their mind and conscience is defiled.” Titus 1:15.
The story of Joseph and Potiphar’s mistress in Genesis 39 reveals a lot. At the outset, it shows how far a person’s sexual desire may go before they choose to ignore their responsibilities to their loved ones. Leaving one’s spiritual commitment, changing one’s brain chemistry, experiencing the ice-coldness of the sex addict’s heart, and reliving one’s trauma all contribute to sexual “acting out” being a short-lived joy. Second, it shows how a man’s God-given instinct may be perverted and cause him to act in highly devastating ways (Hebrews 11:25). Stay away from sexually explicit content.
Because he had learned the importance of relying on God in the past, one of the main reasons Joseph was successful in this story was because he chose to “walk with God” before and throughout his test. He had already laid the spiritual groundwork to sustain him through the trials. In the past, he had been able to say no to Potiphar’s wife’s advances because of the solid foundation he had laid spiritually via his relationship with God.
Thanks to his spiritual vision, he had already rejected comparable situations to rephrase before he was presented with her. With the self-control, he had developed in advance to establish the certainty of his no, he could respond quickly. He didn’t only see the possibility of sensual pleasure with her as a threat to his spiritual well-being. The spiritual foundation he had laid before being tempted made it more likely that he would make the right choice under pressure.
It would be best if you didn’t watch it at all.
The onset of porn addiction is more often precipitated by an impulse, so a solid spiritual foundation should include a response that allows you not to look at all. Your busy schedule doesn’t allow you to give the pessimistic impulse the serious thought it deserves. Before you started to retreat, how long could you gaze at a lion that seemed to be hungry?
“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18
I believe that if Joseph hadn’t fled, he would have given in to temptation. If the sexual need weren’t so strong, many people in history wouldn’t have disgraced God, shattered their families, or lowered themselves to such low levels.
To begin with, it’s essential to recognize that it’s not always possible to construct a spiritual framework successfully. Because you are a person, you have flaws. Because of this, you must be mentally ready to use your escape response quickly when the situation demands it.
Second, it’s crucial to have spiritual support systems in place with males who will be very honest with you and hold you to your accountability agreements. They will strengthen your spiritual bones by sharing the secrets that make them unique.
Third, since God performs miracles, having a solid relationship with him is crucial. He will utilize his power to get you through the tough times if you ask for his assistance.
Confess to your Spiritual Leader
“Confess your faults, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James 5:16
If you are already addicted to porn, I advise you to tell your spiritual leader or someone goodly. I’m not saying this is your only option, but if I were to give you any advice, it would be to be honest about the challenges you’re facing. Most people in the porn business have to figure things out on their own. It’s because they’re too ashamed to inform anybody else. They are too embarrassed to let anybody know about their fight. But the truth is that when we expose our wrongdoing, we help free ourselves from it. Confession may be a very effective strategy. Specifically, it excels in the under-listed:
- It sets the record straight.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
The truth is hidden, which causes people to misinterpret your actions. As we go about our daily lives, we are forced to lie to people at all times because they need us to create the illusion that everything is OK when it is not. What’s going on in our minds and hearts may be uncovered via a good confession. To get treatment for a disease, a patient must first confide in his doctor. A lawyer can’t help his client unless he tells him about his problem, and a churchgoer can’t get prayer until he admits his sin to a fellow Christian.
“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” 2 Chronicles 7:14
When we own our mistakes, we feel ashamed. Be wary of what you are letting slip. You’ve realized your wrongdoing and are making amends. When we admit our shortcomings, we tell the world and, more importantly, the Lord that we have failed. When we accept our mistakes from Him, we are humbling ourselves on purpose. A modest attitude is good because it opens the door to kindness. God promises in Isaiah 66:2 that He will look favorably on the meek. In the aftermath of sin, God’s mercy is what we need most, and we can only get it by humbling ourselves before him.
- It brings about the healing process.
Involuntary honesty is the doorway to restoration. Admitting our shortcomings to another godly Christian will lead to prayer for forgiveness. Having others pray for you is essential because there are specific challenges you can’t face alone. The Lord assembled us into a group of fellow believers in his infinite wisdom. And he will repeatedly heal us by working through the same faithful group. James 5:16 instructs us to pray for one another as a means to physical and spiritual health. While praying for one’s well-being is never wrong, the power of prayer may sometimes work in ways we can’t even imagine.
There are many other ways to get over your addiction to pornography. Still, if I had to choose just one, I would suggest you talk to a spiritual leader.